Today's episode is a quick reminder of the power of jumping to conclusions. I hope this lesson helps remind you to slow down and allow a bit of mindfulness to help alter the way you look at some of your potential misunderstandings.
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Let everybody know what you're doing, what you're listening to maybe spread the word really helps the algorithms really helps get our name out there. And it just helps us to keep on bringing on established guests like we have been just makes it a lot easier for everyone involved. And I appreciate the support. So today, I want to talk about something that recently happened. And it's just, it amazes me because you know, I'm 35 and you think I know better by now. And it was just, it was a real eye opener. So I kind of give you a little bit of a backstory here. I've got five kids. Three of them are in school ready. So I've got a kindergartener, second grader and a third grader are all about to be done for the summer. And so there was a class field day, you know, something like basically everyone's going outside just going to enjoy the day when the last few days of school. So my kindergartener, and he's in a class, decent size class, probably 15 to 20, kids maybe a little more, not exactly, sure. Bigger class. So you know, but basically, they're divided into three groups. And he is the only boy in a group with all girls. And the other two groups had three boys and three girls, three boys and two girls, I think it was not 100%. But I know the group he was in, he was the only boy in all girls. And he was pretty upset about that. And so here's the thing, the week before, that was Teacher Appreciation Week, and we did not get the teachers anything, because we had already gotten, or we'd already had plans to get them gift cards for the last week of school, which was, you know, a week after that. So we decided we would skip on the appreciation week, pretty much when everyone else is doing it and get them something for the end of the year, you know, a week later, pretty much but that way, it was a little more personal, not just looking like a forced gift. And so we're thinking to ourselves, the fact that the teacher is punishing my son, because we didn't get her a gift. And I was getting really pretty angry about it. And I was really starting to get frustrated. And my son was just very upset. And he was just getting very anxious about the fact that he had to go play with all girls, you know, he's a kindergarteners, whole lots of emotions going on at that age. And I was just getting frustrated thinking, why would this kindergarten teacher take it so personal? She didn't have the whole story? Why would she be punishing my son, when she didn't understand that we were, we had full intentions of giving them something, we just we're holding off a little longer. And so finally, you know, reason, just wins out, and we email the teacher, and we're just we're pretty frustrated, you know, and she emails us back. And she says, Oh, my goodness, I'm so sorry, I went alphabetical order. And I had no idea. And so we spent a good half an hour, 45 minutes, just fuming about the fact that our son was being punished for a misunderstanding. And in the end, we were angry over a misunderstanding, and it just cracked me up. It made me so frustrated with myself. Just, you know, misunderstandings have caused some just terrible experiences in life for for plenty of people. And I really looked at this situation uniquely, because it's something that escalated inside my own head far greater than it needed to be, you know, if it was just for me, it'd be one thing when it's my kid involved, you know, it's, you know, you get a little extra angry, a little extra protective. You never want to have your kids suffer because of yourself. And that was all a mistake. It was all a complete misunderstanding. And I was thinking about this experience that night. Basically, after it all cleared out, it was all back to normal. And I was thinking what could I have done to not go down this path because this particular instance was just for a school related thing. But there are plenty of times in business or plenty of times in life that we get too irate to quickly jump to a conclusion that we don't know how we may not have all the information, and then it just ends poorly for everyone. I wrote them down on my phone, little text message to myself that I'm going to share because I think it's a very powerful statement. It's a simple statement, but I really think it is something I'm going to apply far more often my own life? And I hope you do too. And I told myself, what is the least emotional reason? Something just happened. I'm gonna say one last time, what is the least emotional reason something just happened. And in the case of my son, the least emotional reason was he was put in alphabetical order. And if you take the time to look at something like that, if you take the time to look at the things that get you really frustrated, what's the least emotional reason, and if it's not true, and it really is, someone has a vendetta against you, I mean, someone's just being spiteful, you know, you gotta handle that accordingly. But first, before you waste the energy, on something, on business, on life, on relationships, whatever it is, whatever is bothering you, before you go down a path that you're going to waste your precious time, your precious energy on, make sure you're giving it a fair chance to go away on its own. Make sure you're focused on everything, you know, the facts. And if you don't know the facts, try at least in the short term, to ask yourself, What's the least emotional reason this is happening. And it makes life so much easier. Because yes, I clearly was just stressed out parent, they're just very frustrating the situation took away too far was a simple thing. It didn't matter at all in the grand scheme of things. But there are plenty of other instances I can think of in my own head, where there were real stakes on the line. And it's an emotional decision. And it doesn't have to be some things require emotions, everything's going to have emotions in it more or less. But the more that you can look at things from a black and white perspective, the more that you can look at whatever's going on and try and find a way to come across it with the least emotional response as to why someone else is doing something to you, you might find a whole lot more clarity in your situations. Now, I don't know what this pertains to. I mean, everyone's gonna be unique here. I'm just trying to provide a little value in your day, and explain an experience that could have made my life a lot easier for that hour. Instead of getting angry for something that I never need to be angry about. No, I hope this provides a little value in your day. I hope the next time you have a situation like this come up, whether it's for your family, for your kids, for spouse, for work for a friend, whatever is going on, just try and look a little differently. And if it still ends up being what you were thinking it was the first time then you gotta handle it accordingly. This doesn't fix all your problems by any means. I just hope it fixes some of the smaller ones and lets you just enjoy your day a little bit more. So that's all I got for today. We'll talk soon. Thanks for listening to the caffeinated hustle. Sponsored by caffeinated labs LLC. For more information for to connect with Ben. Check us out online at caffeinated labs.io. Or email us at support at caffeinated labs.io. Be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode, or give us a follow on social media by checking the links in the description. We'll see you next time.